關於婚姻有的人衝動，有的人慎重，那麼我們有沒有準備好共同步入婚姻的殿堂，著名的《紐約時報》婚前15問送給你。
1. 我們要不要孩子？如果要，主要由誰來負責？
2. 我們的家庭賺錢能力及目標是什麼？消費觀及儲蓄觀會不會發生衝突？
3. 我們的家庭如何維持？由誰來掌握可能出現的風險?
4. 我們有沒有詳盡地交換過雙方的疾病史？包括精神上的.
5. 我們父母的態度有沒有達到我們的預期？會不會給足夠的祝福？
6. 我們有沒有自然、坦誠地說出自己的性需求、性的偏好及恐懼？
7. 臥室能放電視機嗎？
8. 我們真的能傾聽對方訴說，並公平對待對方的想法和抱怨嗎？
9. 我們清晰地瞭解對方的精神需求及信仰嗎？我們討論過孩子將來的信仰問題嗎？
10. 我們喜歡並尊重對方的朋友嗎？
11. 我們能不能看重並尊敬對方的父母？我們有沒考慮到父母可能會干涉我們的關係？
12. 我的家庭最讓你心煩的事情是什麼？
13. 我們永遠不會因為婚姻放棄的東西是什麼？
14. 如果我們中的一人需要離開其家族所在地陪同另一個人到外地工作，做得到嗎？
15. 我們是不是充滿信心面對任何挑戰使婚姻一直往前走？
Relationship experts report that too many couples fail to ask each other
critical questions before marrying. Here are a few key ones that
couples should consider asking:
1) Have we discussed whether or not to have children, and if the answer is yes, who is going to be the primary care giver?
2) Do we have a clear idea of each other’s financial obligations and goals, and do our ideas about spending and saving mesh?
3) Have we discussed our expectations for how the household will be maintained, and are we in agreement on who will manage the chores?
4) Have we fully disclosed our health histories, both physical and mental?
5) Is my partner affectionate to the degree that I expect?
6) Can we comfortably and openly discuss our sexual needs, preferences and fears?
7) Will there be a television in the bedroom?
8) Do we truly listen to each other and fairly consider one another’s ideas and complaints?
9) Have we reached a clear understanding of each other’s spiritual beliefs and needs, and have we discussed when and how our children will be exposed to religious/moral education?
10) Do we like and respect each other’s friends?
11) Do we value and respect each other’s parents, and is either of us concerned about whether the parents will interfere with the relationship?
12) What does my family do that annoys you?
13) Are there some things that you and I are NOT prepared to give up in the marriage?
14) If one of us were to be offered a career opportunity in a location far from the other’s family, are we prepared to move?
15) Does each of us feel fully confident in the other’s commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges we may face?
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