——美版知乎Quora上一個名叫Dang Nguyen的小夥子的自述
So the first time I ever met my girlfriend's parents was to tell them their 17 year old daughter was going to give birth in one week.That's a pretty good punch line, yes? It's true though, so let me tell you the backstory.I was 19 at the time, she was 17.We were young, immature and SO not ready to have a baby.I wanted to play computer games and talk with friends about the meaning of life.Not change dirty diapers and actually bring a human being into this life.We were paralyzed with fear. Literally.To the point that we did nothing about it for several months.
我第一次見我女朋友的父母時，我告訴他們，他們17歲的女兒將在一週內分娩。這挺搞笑的，對嗎？
但這確實是真的，我跟你們說說都發生了什麼吧。
那時我19歲，她17歲。我們還很年輕，幼稚，還沒有準備好要孩子。
我想玩電腦遊戲，和朋友談論人生的意義，而不是給嬰兒換尿布，在自己的生活中增加一個小生命。
我們嚇得癱了。真的。以至於我們在幾個月內都無所適從。
We hid the pregnancy from everyone including our closest friends and family.It was our best, and worst kept secret.Nobody could find out or we knew it would all be over. Whatever that it was.I'm ashamed to admit that we considered abortion as an option, but it was already too late so our only alternative at that time was adoption.We called the local adoption center and met with a very kind woman who would end up helping us through the ordeal.We had several meetings over the next few weeks. We learned more about the people who would eventually be the responsible, loving parents that we were supposed to be.The day finally came for us to sign the documents.
我們對每個人，包括我們最親密的朋友和家人隱瞞了懷孕的事。這是我們隱瞞過的最美好的，也最不堪的秘密。沒有人會發現，我們知道一切都會結束。不管是什麼。
我很慚愧地承認我們考慮過墮胎，但當時已經太晚了，所以我們當時唯一的選擇就是領養。
我們給當地的領養中心打電話，遇到了一位非常善良的女人，她會幫助我們度過難關。
我們在接下來的幾個星期裡見了幾次面。我們對那些負責、有愛的父母進行了更深入的瞭解。
終於，到了我們要簽署文件的那天。
Documents that would soon mean we would have to hand off our precious unborn son to some strangers.They would be happy parents.And we would not be parents.I remember having mixed feelings about the situation. Relief, that's for damn sure. And also a feeling of regret, even though nothing was official at that point.Before heading to the adoption center, my girlfriend had an appointment with her obstetrician.As a result of us hiding the pregnancy and not going to regular doctor visits, the baby was very small and likely to be premature. The OB was very concerned.I remember that day like yesterday.I was in the car waiting. My girlfriend came out of the doctor's office shaking and in absolute tears. This was not good.
這些文件很快就意味著我們將不得不把我們尚未出生的寶貝兒子交給陌生人。
他們會是幸福的父母。而我們不會。
我記得當時我的心情憂喜參半。感到解脫，那是肯定的。但也有一絲悔意，即使當時還沒有塵埃落定。
在去收養中心之前，我女朋友去找她的產科醫生檢查。因為我們隱瞞懷孕事實，沒有定期去看醫生，所以嬰兒非常小，很可能早產。產科醫生非常擔心。
在我腦海裡，那天就好像昨天一樣。我在車裡等。我女友從醫生的辦公室出來，渾身發抖，眼淚汪汪。這可不太對勁。
Very concerned and even more afraid of the answer, I asked, “What happened!??”She was mini hyperventilating and unable to answer for a moment, finally she said, “The doctor told me I have to stay in the hospital until I give birth.”Silence.In one single moment, all of those months we spent scheming and lying to everyone…it all didn't matter. Our secret would be out.The decision was made for us.We ended up having to spill the beans, or in this case, spill the baby.The baby was born 3 weeks premature. This is one of the first images I have of him, at 10 days old.
我很擔心，更害怕會聽到什麼回答，我問女友：“發生了什麼事？？？”
她有點喘不過氣來，一時說不出話來，最後她說：“醫生告訴我，必須住院直到分娩。”
我沉默了。在一瞬間，這幾個月來我們策劃、欺騙了每個人……這些都無關緊要了。我們的秘密就要曝光了。
這個決定是我們做的。
我們最後不得不說出這個秘密，或者說，向大家坦白寶寶的存在。
（就這樣，這個寶寶被留了下來）
這個嬰兒早產了三個星期。這是我第一次給他拍的照片中的一張，他那時出生10天了。
（而現在，他已經16歲了）
And I took this picture with my son, Brenden, this morning. A now 16 year old who I love with all of my heart.
今天早上我和兒子布倫登合影了。我兒子現在16歲了，我全心全意地愛著他。
As for my high school girlfriend? The mother of my first born?Well, luckily for me, she stuck around too and gave me two more beautiful and crazy sons. I took this picture just now, for this Quora post.
你問我高中時期的女朋友？也就是我第一個孩子的母親？
嗯，我很幸運，她也一直陪著我，另外又給我生了兩個又漂亮又吵鬧的男孩。我剛剛為這個Quora帖子拍了這張照片。
這便是我這輩子做過的最好的決定。
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