The amount of conflicting advice there is on how to bring up happy and successful children can make your head spin.
关于如何快乐成功地将孩子抚养长大这个问题，许多相互矛盾的建议会让你晕头转向。
Parents often find themselves questioning how strict they should be with youngsters and how much independence they should allow them.
父母们经常发现自己迷失在这样一些问题上——我应该对孩子多严格，我应该让他们有多独立？
Now a new book by psychologists says our approach is wrong – because we’re training them to be computers, reports NPR.
而现在心理学家们的一本新书说，我们的做法是错误的——因为我们的做法是在训练孩子们成为计算机。
Instead of focusing on ’success’ at school, we should be teaching them how to be better at being social, navigate relationships and be good citizens in a community.
我们不应该把重点放在学校的“成功”上面，而应该教他们如何在社交和人际关系方面做得更好，如何成为社区中的好公民。
That’s according to two professors who have written Becoming Brilliant: What Science Tells Us About Raising Successful Children.
两名教授的著作《Becoming Brilliant: What Science Tells Us About Raising Successful Children》就表达了这一思想。
’We’re training kids to do what computers do, which is spit back facts,’ Kathy Hirsh-Pasek, professor at Temple University in Philadelphia, told the website.
费城天普大学教授凯西·赫什-帕塞克表示称：“我们正在将孩子训练成为计算机，让他们只会陈述事实。”
’And computers are always going to be better than human beings at that.’
“而计算机还常常在那方面表现得比人类更好。”
This way of thinking challenges our definition of what success in school, and out of school, means, they say.
他们表示称，改变我们对在学校内、以及学校外成功的定义至关重要。
Instead, we should focus on the ’six Cs’ of parenting, says Professor Hirsh-Pasek and her co-author Roberta Golinkoff from the University of Delaware.
相反，赫什-帕塞克教授、以及来自特拉华大学的另一名作者罗伯塔指出，父母们应该采取“6C”策略。
This is collaboration, communication, content, critical thinking, creative innovation and confidence – listed in order of importance.
按照重要性排序，6C即合作（collaboration）、交流（communication）、内容（content）、批判思维（critical thinking）、创新（ creative innovation ）和自信（confidence）。
The first, collaboration, is basic but at the core of parenting.
首先，合作是父母教育孩子最基本、最核心的内容。
’Collaboration is everything from getting along with others to controlling your impulses so you can not kick someone else off the swing,’ Professor Hirsh-Pasek explained.
赫什-帕塞克教授解释称：“合作可以是一切，可以是你和别人相处，也可以是你控制自己想要把别人踢下秋千的冲动。”
Everything your child does, in the classroom or at home, has to be built on that foundation.
你的孩子所做的一切，无论是在课堂上还是在家里，都应建立在这个基础之上。
The authors give a practical example of encouraging critical thinking – you should make sure you do not shut them down when they ask a question.
两位作者还给出了一个鼓励批判性思维的实例——当孩子们问问题时，你绝不能对他们敷衍了事。
And you should encourage them to ask more. You want them to understand how other people think.
而你应该鼓励他们问更多的问题。你应该让他们理解其他人是如何思考的。
The book explains that there are four levels to each of the six C’s, which allow parents to assess how strong they are in each skill.
该书还解释称6C中每一项都有四个层次，这就使得父母们能够评估自己在每一项技能上做得够不够好。
They stress that social interaction between parents and child is what help set up the child for the development of these skills.
他们还强调，父母和孩子之间的社交是帮助孩子发展这些技能的基础。
’What we do with little kids today will matter in 20 years,’ says Hirsh-Pasek.
赫什-帕塞克教授表示：“我们今天对孩子们做的事情，20年后将会对他们产生巨大影响。”
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