Stop using the word"just"to describe yourself.
1.不用“只是”
1.bú yòng “zhī shì ”
Oprah says:"Stop saying that."I can’t tell you how often I tell people that I’m"just"a yoga teacher,"just"a blogger,"just"an artist. I’ve been delving into my motivation for doing this — maybe I want to make certain that everyone else knows that I know I’m nothing special before they can size me up and judge me. And sometimes I think I use this phrase to lessen my accountability in certain situations. If I’m"just"an artist, how can I be expected to be smart with money, for instance? I also think I use it, subconsciously, to decrease my importance in the eyes of others. Whatever my excuses, I need to suck it up and cut the word from my identity once and for all.
不要用“只是”來修飾自己。奧普拉這樣說到：“我經常聽到別人這樣介紹自己，我只是一個瑜伽教練，只是一個撰寫博客的人，只是一名搞藝術的人。我一直在自己的領域專心研究——也許我們這樣說只是希望別人在評價我們的時候可以把我們當成一個平凡的不能再平凡的人，這樣我們就不必去承擔一定要去做更好的壓力，因為我們只是一個平凡的人。不管你的藉口是什麼，不要使用'just'這個詞”。
bú yào yòng “zhī shì ”lái xiū shì zì jǐ 。ào pǔ lā zhè yàng shuō dào ：“wǒ jīng cháng tīng dào bié rén zhè yàng jiè shào zì jǐ ，wǒ zhī shì yī gè yú gā jiāo liàn ，zhī shì yī gè zhuàn xiě bó kè de rén ，zhī shì yī míng gǎo yì shù de rén 。wǒ yī zhí zài zì jǐ de lǐng yù zhuān xīn yán jiū ——yě xǔ wǒ men zhè yàng shuō zhī shì xī wàng bié rén zài píng jià wǒ men de shí hòu kě yǐ bǎ wǒ men dāng chéng yī gè píng fán de bú néng zài píng fán de rén ，zhè yàng wǒ men jiù bú bì qù chéng dān yī dìng yào qù zuò gèng hǎo de yā lì ，yīn wéi wǒ men zhī shì yī gè píng fán de rén 。bú guǎn nǐ de jiè kǒu shì shí me ，bú yào shǐ yòng 'just'zhè gè cí ”。
2. Build up men.
2.讚揚別人
2.zàn yáng bié rén
In the words of Oprah:"The truth of the matter is, men do need to be made to feel like they’re winners. They do need to have themselves built up."Yeah, I know. It’s painful to read the first time, isn’t it? I was so disgusted by this assignment when I first read it, I had a hard time implementing it in my life. But instead of being insulted by my stream of compliments, gratitude and ego-boosting, the men in my life seemed happier, more amenable to change and more relaxed. I hesitate to use the words"putty in my hands,"but boy, are they far more susceptible to flattery than any woman I’ve ever met.
讚揚別人。引用奧普拉的話說“每個人都希望別人認為自己是個大贏家，他們需要別人的肯定。”
zàn yáng bié rén 。yǐn yòng ào pǔ lā de huà shuō “měi gè rén dōu xī wàng bié rén rèn wéi zì jǐ shì gè dà yíng jiā ，tā men xū yào bié rén de kěn dìng 。”
3. Be conscious of waste.
3.減少浪費
3.jiǎn shǎo làng fèi
"Ask yourself, ‘What can I live without?’"This has always been important to me, but is now my constant subtext every time I step into a grocery store, browse an online retail site or watch a television commercial. It’s been good for my wallet. On the flip side, my husband worries that I’m not allowing myself anything special in my quest to live"without."He is probably right, and I’ll need to learn where the middle ground is here.
減少浪費。“問問自己，有哪些東西我可以不用買，但是還是可以好好地活下去。”
jiǎn shǎo làng fèi 。“wèn wèn zì jǐ ，yǒu nǎ xiē dōng xī wǒ kě yǐ bú yòng mǎi ，dàn shì hái shì kě yǐ hǎo hǎo dì huó xià qù 。”
4. Stay clear about finances and don’t spend money you don’t have.
4.勤儉節約
4.qín jiǎn jiē yuē
Need I say more? The easiest part of this assignment is avoiding using credit; the tough part is the clarity. I cringe when it comes to my personal finances, and would much rather stick my head in the sand and hope that by the time I come up for air, we all go back to the barter system.
好好理財，勤儉節約。這個還需要我再去說麼？最簡單的方法就是不要使用信用卡，接著就是明細賬單。
hǎo hǎo lǐ cái ，qín jiǎn jiē yuē 。zhè gè hái xū yào wǒ zài qù shuō me ？zuì jiǎn dān de fāng fǎ jiù shì bú yào shǐ yòng xìn yòng kǎ ，jiē zhe jiù shì míng xì zhàng dān 。
5."Be nice."
5.真誠友好
5.zhēn chéng yǒu hǎo
No-brainer. But I’m going to include an addendum:"Be genuinely nice."
“真誠友好”
“zhēn chéng yǒu hǎo ”
6."Savor every meal."
6.享用每一頓美食
6.xiǎng yòng měi yī dùn měi shí
I can barely sit still or be offline for more than five minutes. While this advice might seem simple, I dare you to try to eat slowly, chew carefully, put your fork down between every bite, breathe and turn off all outside distractions when you sit down to each and every meal. At first, I felt like I was going to lose my mind; then I began to appreciate each opportunity I had to eat. I became grateful for every morsel. And most surprisingly for me, my days stopped zipping by so quickly.
“好好吃每頓飯”。我們只需要安靜地坐在那兒5分鐘或者只是5分鐘不上網，就可以好好地享用一頓健康的美食。
“hǎo hǎo chī měi dùn fàn ”。wǒ men zhī xū yào ān jìng dì zuò zài nà ér 5fèn zhōng huò zhě zhī shì 5fèn zhōng bú shàng wǎng ，jiù kě yǐ hǎo hǎo dì xiǎng yòng yī dùn jiàn kāng de měi shí 。
7."Support other women instead of criticizing them."
7.肯定他人
7.kěn dìng tā rén
Oprah thinks we gals are too judgmental of each other. My gut response was defensiveness and finger pointing; I even judged Oprah for judging me for being too judgmental. But then I took a good hard look at my habit of criticizing the other women’s choices and priorities, and realized she was right. I think my reward in achieving this goal will to also become less judgmental of myself. Frankly, the woman I’m the hardest on — who I beat up emotionally and spiritually — is me.
“肯定別人，而不是否定他們。”奧普拉認為人們太喜歡用自己的標準去評定他人。
8."Stop defining yourself by what you see — or what you think you see — when you look in the mirror."
8.肯定自己
This would be easier if I didn’t have such a crooked nose, flabby belly and giant man-sized feet. That was supposed to be a joke. But sadly, it’s what I see in my reflection, and where I focus my dissatisfaction.
“眼見不一定為實——對自己看到的，認為自己看到的東西發出疑問”。我們經常為自己塌下來的鼻子，鬆垮的肚皮而困擾，不要將自己鎖在消極的一面，而忽略了自己的優點。
“yǎn jiàn bú yī dìng wéi shí ——duì zì jǐ kàn dào de ，rèn wéi zì jǐ kàn dào de dōng xī fā chū yí wèn ”。wǒ men jīng cháng wéi zì jǐ tā xià lái de bí zǐ ，sōng kuǎ de dù pí ér kùn rǎo ，bú yào jiāng zì jǐ suǒ zài xiāo jí de yī miàn ，ér hū luè le zì jǐ de yōu diǎn 。
9."Get a lift when you come in the front door."
9.拋開煩惱
9.pāo kāi fán nǎo
Oprah said this in response to a show about decorating, and last year, I hung photos and added fun tchotchkes to my entryway. These items never failed to make me happy. But this year, I’m also taking a moment to think of something I am grateful for, right before I enter. So, my"lift"doesn’t have to come from physical stuff, but rather from within. It sounds a little sappy, I know, but I’m being sincere.
在去年一場裝飾秀的節目中，奧普拉這樣說到“把煩惱拋在門外”。門前的照片和小飾物已經不能讓你感到快樂，那麼在進門前，試著想想讓你開心的事，而那些煩惱統統關在門外。
zài qù nián yī chǎng zhuāng shì xiù de jiē mù zhōng ，ào pǔ lā zhè yàng shuō dào “bǎ fán nǎo pāo zài mén wài ”。mén qián de zhào piàn hé xiǎo shì wù yǐ jīng bú néng ràng nǐ gǎn dào kuài lè ，nà me zài jìn mén qián ，shì zhe xiǎng xiǎng ràng nǐ kāi xīn de shì ，ér nà xiē fán nǎo tǒng tǒng guān zài mén wài 。
10."Reconnect with nature."
10.親近大自然
10.qīn jìn dà zì rán
Oprah originally intended this statement to be a call for us to take in the beauty of a specific season: Spring. And it was a lovely thought. But right now, in the height of a nasty winter in Chicago, it’s more of a challenge to stay connected to the world around me. It’s a time I want to bundle up, keep my head down, and just pray for the days to go by quickly until I can see the sun again. But this disconnection keeps me from living entirely in the moment. I think accepting and relating to the natural world around me will (like savoring every meal) keep me present and stop the clock’s hands from circling its face at breakneck speed.
“與大自然親密接觸”。奧普拉的這個說法主要指的是春天，萬物復甦的時候，但是現在是冬天，我們總是窩在房子裡祈禱寒冷的天氣趕緊過去，實際上我們也可以與大自然接觸，譬如我們可以享受每一頓美食。
“yǔ dà zì rán qīn mì jiē chù ”。ào pǔ lā de zhè gè shuō fǎ zhǔ yào zhǐ de shì chūn tiān ，wàn wù fù sū de shí hòu ，dàn shì xiàn zài shì dōng tiān ，wǒ men zǒng shì wō zài fáng zǐ lǐ qí dǎo hán lěng de tiān qì gǎn jǐn guò qù ，shí jì shàng wǒ men yě kě yǐ yǔ dà zì rán jiē chù ，pì rú wǒ men kě yǐ xiǎng shòu měi yī dùn měi shí 。
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