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如何正確的尋求一段關係？
如何以正確的心態尋求一段靠譜的關係？今天的視頻或許可以給你一定的啟迪，快快點擊學習吧！
（注：視頻為雙語版本，先看視頻學習一遍，再回來看文本進行深度學習，效果更顯著哦）
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Have you been going on dates and wondering whether you should start a relationship?
你是否一直在約會 並考慮是否應該開始一段關係
or maybe you just moved because you got a new job,
或者是你搬家 因為你找到了一份新工作
You're going to school, since you don't know anyone and want to build connections,
你即將去上學 你誰也不認識 渴望與他人建立聯繫
you might be asking yourself,
你可能會問自己
Should I date and seek a relationship?
我應該約會並尋求一種關係嗎
Due to social norms, we may often feel pressured to date when we're single,
由於一些社會準則 在我們單身時 約會這件事常常會給我們壓力
but entering a relationship is a huge commitment.
但是 一段關係的形成 意味著這是一個巨大的承諾
Have you been reluctant to try but not sure why?
你是否不願意嘗試 但是又不知道自己為什麼會如此抗拒
Here are some signs you may not be ready for a relationship.
這裡有幾個跡象可以表明 你可能還沒有準備好開始一段感情
One, you care more about finding the perfect partner instead of working on yourself.
第一 你更在乎找到完美的伴侶 而不是通過自己的努力（去實現某些東西）
Are you constantly daydreaming about finding your prince charming or Cinderella,
你是否經常做著尋找白馬王子或灰姑娘的白日夢
when you're walking down the streets and see many couples holding hands or listening to love songs as you're waiting for the bus?
特別是當你走在大街上 看到很多情侶在等車的時候 手牽著手或聽著情歌
It's normal to think about who your ideal soulmate is.
想象一下你理想的靈魂伴侶是什麼樣的 這很正常
Love is exciting when you meet someone you share chemistry with,
當你遇到一個能和你產生化學反應的人時 愛是讓人興奮的
but relationships always require work in order to survive.
但是為了保持一段好的感情 總是需要付出努力的
Getting butterflies in your stomach isn't ultimate love.
總是小心翼翼的愛並不是最終的愛
Sometimes Prince Charming or Cinderella will let you down and it won't be perfect.
有時 白馬王子或灰姑娘也會讓你失望 他們也不是完美的
Don't spend all your time and energy finding someone who meets every requirement on your list.
不要把你所有的時間和精力都花在尋找滿足你所有要求的人身上
Instead, work on being the best version of yourself.
相反的 你要努力的做好自己
Two, you're still working on your goals and discovering who you are.
第二 你仍在為你的目標努力 並更進一步的瞭解自己
Do you want to travel and see more of the world or join programs that help you turn your hobbies into potential careers?
你想去旅遊看世界呢 還是參加一些能把你的愛好變成潛在職業的活動
There's nothing wrong with doing you.
你這樣做沒有錯
In fact, soul searching is an incredibly rewarding experience.
事實上 自我反省是一種非常有益的體驗
That's when you get to reflect form connections with great people and do more of what makes you happy.
這時 你就可以和優秀的人建立聯繫 做更多讓自己開心的事情
Three, you want someone to save you.
第三 你需要某人去解救你
It's not romantic to have someone save you from your problems or misery,
有人把你從麻煩或痛苦中拯救出來 其實這並不浪漫
If you're unhappy or want an easy way out of your problems, a relationship is not the answer.
如果你不開心或者想要一個簡單的方法來解決你的問題 通過一段感情來逃避不是好的方法
You can't expect someone to be your hero or stop the hurt from hurting.
你不能期望有人能成為你的英雄 或幫你阻止你受到的傷害
It's dangerous to use relationships to distract yourself from your problems.
用人際關係來轉移你對問題的注意力是很危險的
In fact, this can even attract toxic partners who feed off of codependent behavior.
事實上 這甚至會吸引到那些有相互依賴行為的有毒伴侶
Live your life actively and don't wait for someone to show up.
要積極地生活 不要等著別人出現
If you need help, that's normal and healthy.
如果你感到需要幫助了 這也是正常和健康的心理
Surround yourself with supportive people who can be there for you on bad days.
多和那些在你困難的時候支持你的人在一起吧
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