美國在教育子女上相對比較寬鬆，所以他們的教子方法有很多種。
雖然生活習慣，文化習俗各國國情各有不同，不過孩子的天性總是大致相同的，所以在子女教育上也有著相通的地方。
今天介紹的是美國家長在教育子女中信奉的40條原則，如果在生活中遵循這些法則，相信各位父母在子女教育上可以避免走不少彎路。
1、改變孩子，要從改變父母開始。父母改變，孩子才能改變。
Changing a child need to start from changing parents. If parents change, the child can change.
2、父母最需要意識到的就是，無論自己所受的教育，還是自己的言行都存在諸多問題，首先要一點一滴擠掉自己身上的毒素，才能“更配”為人父母。
Parents need to realize that, regardless of his education, or his own words and deeds has many problems, the first thing is to crowd out her body toxin bit by bit，so as to be real parents.
3、在一個溫和、充滿善意的家庭中成長起來的孩子，性格不會出現大問題。孩子性格與品行出問題，責任基本出在父母身上。
A child who grows up in a gentle, well-intentioned family will not have big problems on characters. If children have problems on their characters and conducts, the responsibility is basically on their parents.
4、每一個父母都應該用一生的力量說出“我相信你，孩子！”
Every parent should use the power of a lifetime to say I trust you, my child!
5、任何教育的進步都是極其艱難和緩慢的，與其期待國家的教育變革，不如期待學校教育的改善；與其期待學校教育的改善，不如從家庭教育的改進做起。孩子的未來不是掌握在學校，而是掌握在父母手中。
The progress of any education is extremely difficult and slow. Instead of expecting the education change of the country, we should expect the improvement of education at school. Instead of looking forward to the improvement of education, we should start from the improvement of family education. The future of children is not at school, but in their parents' hands.
6、無論你到哪裡謀生，無論你生活多艱辛，請一定帶上你的孩子。孩子不在你身邊，孩子就在更多的危險之中。
No matter where you make a living, no matter how hard your life is, bring your children. Children are at risk when they are not with you.
7、下班的路，是回家的路。花更多的時間和孩子在一起比什麼都重要。人生的很多麻煩都是因為沒有生活在自己家裡造成的。
The way back is the way home. Spending more time with your children is more important than anything else. Troubles in life are usually caused by not living at your own home.
8、全家人一起吃晚餐，有助於小孩獲得較好營養，較高學業成績、較不會抽菸、喝酒、吸毒、打架、提早性行為。即使父母雙方只有一人能趕上晚餐也會有上述效果。孩子的未來，往往在餐桌上和客廳裡就已經決定了。
Family has dinner together, which helps children get better nutrition, higher academic performance, less smoking, drinking, druging, fighting and early sex. Even if only one parent could catch the dinner, it also works. Children's future, uaually has been decided in the dining room and the living room.
9、切勿在就餐時訓斥孩子，餐桌是共享食物，交流思想與見聞的佳所。融融的親情也有助於孩子學會感恩和餐桌禮儀。
Don't scold the child during the meal. The table is a good place to share food, exchange ideas and knowledge. Family affection also helps children to learn thanksgiving and table manners.
10、切勿在孩子臨睡時進行教育，時常懷著恐懼、帶著淚水入眠的孩子，生命會變得十分晦暗。
Do not to educate when your child is sleeping. when your child is always sleeping with fear and tears, his or her life will be very dull.
11、快樂的孩子，都有夥伴，孤獨的孩子，性情容易變得古怪。鼓勵孩子與同伴交往，鼓勵孩子參加戶外運動，是父母送給孩子最好的禮物。
Happy child has companions, lonely child is easy to be eccentric. Encouraging them to socialize with peers and participate in outdoor sports is the best gift that parents can give to their children.
12、你每天以什麼樣的方式對待孩子，慢慢的，你便會有一張什麼樣的臉，是孩子塑造了我們的面貌。
How you treat your child everyday, will shape your face slowly.
13、和孩子交談，六歲之前適宜面對面，六歲之後要逐漸改為肩並肩。因為六歲之前的孩子在意你對他的關注，而青少年則不希望你“盯著他”，而是能夠以朋友的方式和他交談，這樣他更容易打開心房。
Talk to your child face to face before age 6, and gradually change to shoulder to shoulder after age 6. Because a child before age 6 cares about your attention to him, and teenagers don't want you to stare at him, he prefers to talk to you in a friend's way, so he can open his heart more easily.
14、父母發現自己誤解了孩子或教育方式不當，應該誠懇地向孩子道歉。
Parents should sincerely apologize to their children when they find themselves misreading their children.
15、有教養的父母，不一定就能培養出有教養的孩子，但可以肯定的是，父母缺乏教養，孩子必倒黴。
A well-bred parent may not nurture a well-bred child, but it is certain that the child will suffer from a lack of parenting.
16、要正確對待孩子對老師的評價，不在孩子面前議論老師或與老師爭吵。
Treat your child‘s evaluation of teachers correctly, do not discuss or argue with the teacher in front of the child.
17、不要當著孩子的面，與老師或其他家長議論孩子的優缺點。
Don't discuss your child's strengths and weaknesses with your teacher or other parents in front of your child.
18、孩子在學校遭受不公正、不人道的待遇，父母應主動與學校溝通、替孩子申訴，但同時也須意識到，如果這樣溝通、申訴毫無效果，你就需要設法為孩子換一所學校。
When children suffer from injustice or
inhumane treatment at school, parents should take the initiative to communicate with school. But at the same time, it must be realized that if the communication have no effect, you need to try to change a school for your child.
19、即使孩子的學業成績欠佳，父母也應全力鼓勵孩子保持學習的熱情，同時應該有勇氣放低對孩子的期望值，因為最終決定孩子未來的並不是他的學習成績，而是繼續學習的信念。
Even if the child has poor academic performance, parents should also encourage them to keep learning, put lower expectations, because which ultimately determine the future of the child is not his grades, but belief to keep learning.
20、孩子成績欠佳時，最重要的是父母不要變得沮喪、狂躁、失去信心，孩子即使輸掉學業，他也不一定會輸掉人生。如果父母喪失希望，孩子的人生一定也輸掉了。
When a child gets poor grades, the most important thing is that his parents don't get frustrated, manic, or lose confidence. Even if a child loses his school education, it doesn't means he lose his life. If the parents lose hope, the child's life will be lost.
21、把孩子交給祖父母撫養的麻煩在於，祖父母對孫子的喜愛往往超過了對自己兒子的喜愛，同時祖父母總是傾向於認為自己比孫子的父母更聰明更有經驗，只有他們才能夠使孩子有一個更好的未來。
Leaving your kids with grandparents have some troubles. They will love their grandchildren more than their own son, also they tend to think they have more experiences than their children, and they can make children have a better future.
22、三代同堂的家庭一旦為養育孩子出現分歧甚至爭執，幾乎沒有調節與改善的可能，因為“真理往往掌握在脾氣最壞的人手裡”。
Families of three generations have little or no chance of improvement once they quarrelled about raising their children, because the truth is often in the hands of the worst tempered.
23、解決家庭中養育第三代人權力的爭奪，最好的辦法是分開居住，由父母獨立養育自己的孩子。最糟糕的情形也莫過於此，你可能暫時傷了自己父母的心，但你因此可以盡到更多對孩子的責任。
The best way to settle the struggle for nurturing third-generation in the family is to live separately from the parents, and raise their own children by themselves. The worst case is that you may temporarily hurt your parents' heart, but you can perform your duty well.
24、為貪圖生活的輕鬆、舒適而將孩子交給祖父母或保姆的家長，其實是在與未來做一場豪賭。
Parents who give their children to grandparents or nannies for the comfort of life are actually making a big bet with children's future.
25、在中國有60%的父母為孩子的未來極度憂慮，但其中不到1%的父母是為孩子的睡眠不足憂慮。很多兒童的未來其實是輸在睡眠嚴重不足上。一個孩子只要睡得好，看世界看自己的方式都不一樣。
In China, 60 percent of parents are extremely worried about their children's future, but less than 1 percent of parents are worried about their children's sleeping. Actually the future of children will lose because of lack of sleep. A child who sleeps well will see the world differently.
26、如果孩子情緒狂躁，先檢查一下他的睡眠。如果家庭中衝突不斷，先檢查一下全家人的睡眠。
If your child is feeling restless, check his sleep. If your family is in conflict, check your family's sleep.
27、只要出自真誠，對孩子的表揚與鼓勵越多越好。當孩子往前走，他回頭時最渴望看得到的是鼓勵的眼睛。
As long as it comes from sincerity, it's better to give more praise and encouragement to your child. When the child move forward, he will look back with the most eager eyes for encouragement.
28、艾瑞克·佛羅姆說：在性愛中，兩個分開的人結合為一體。在母愛中，曾為一體的兩個人被分開了。母親不僅需要容忍，她還必須希望和支持孩子同她分離。母親以愛和具體的幫助，使孩子順利與自己分離。
In sex, two separate people are integrated, says Eric Fromm. In mother's love, two people who once were one are separated. Mother not only needs to be tolerant, she must also hope and support her child to be separated from her. With love and concrete help, the mother separated the child from herself.
29、勤未必能補拙，揚長遠勝於避短。
Diligence may not be able to fill in, far better than others.
30、負擔過重，必然導致膚淺。負擔過重，必然導致後續學習時的“學業枯竭”，也就是早期學習投入過度，後續學習必然失去成長的空間。
Overburden leads to superficiality, and inevitably leads to the academic exhaustion in the follow study, which means early learning investment is excessive, follow study may lose the space of growth.
31、任何身體或心理的疾病，如果可以追溯到童年時期，往往都是最難治癒和最嚴重的。
Any physical or mental illness is often the hardest to cure, if it can be traced back to childhood.
32、在嚴酷的應試教育背景下，培養孩子適當的對分數的鈍感力，有助於他更好的成長。
In the harsh test of education, it is helpful for children to grow up better by training them to be insensitive to grades.
33、在以分數為評價標尺的學校生活中，成績落後、思維遲緩的孩子很難不受到傷害，培養孩子適當的對批評與傷害的鈍感力，對他的成長更有助益。
If a child is falling behind, he will be hurt easily.So it is helpful for them to grow up better by training them to be insensitive to criticism and damage.
34、尊重孩子的興趣，鼓勵孩子自己去嘗試，如果嘗試失敗了，繼續鼓勵孩子嘗試別的，直到找到他喜歡的為止。
Respect their interests, encourage them to try. If the attempt fails, continue to encourage them to try something else until he finds what he love to do.
35、每一個人的成長都需要必要的條件，一個孩子的天份越高對成長所需要的條件也越為苛刻，所以，“莫扎特如果出生在一個農民家庭，很可能就會成為一種災難。”
Every people all need necessary conditions for their growth. Talented children will need higher conditions, so if Mozart was born in a peasant family, it is likely to become a disaster.
36、每一個人的成長都需要必要的條件，一個孩子若有智力或健康方面的重大侷限，他對成長所需要的條件也就更為苛刻，為人父母就要傾其全力給予孩子關愛與幫助，孩子任何進步都具有石破天驚的意義。
Every people all need necessary conditions for their growth. A child who have intelligence or health limitations will need higher conditions.Parents should try their best to give help. Any progress of the child means a lot.
37、一個孩子若是性格內向、羞澀，就讓他內向、羞澀好了，什麼時候想改變是他自己的事情，你根本不應該勉強他。
If a child is introverted and shy, let him be introverted and shy. What time to change themselves is his own business, you should not force him.
38、教育孩子一定要有“各是各”的意識，就是要分清楚每件事情原因和責任之所在，既不能“數罪併罰”，更不能讓孩子承擔他不能承擔的責任。
Educating child must have seperated consciousness, that is to say, separating the reason and responsibility of every thing. Do not combine punishment for several crimes, Do not let the child wo take responsibilities that he can't bear.
39、當眾責罵和懲罰孩子，幾乎就是一種可怕的虐殺。
Scolding and punishing children in public is almost a terrible torture.
40、即使你認為非常有必要批評或懲罰孩子，也需要先剋制一下，剋制可以避免犯錯，變得從容、理智，這都有助於你在教育孩子上做到“最不壞”。
Even if you think it's necessary to criticize or punish your child, you need to restraint yourself. Being calm and avoiding making mistakes will help you.
養育孩子是一個漫長的過程，有人說：為人父母，可能是世界上門檻最低的職業，因為它甚至連考試都不用。但門檻低，卻不意味著人人都能順利畢業。因為很多人並不清楚一個合格的媽媽究竟要具備什麼條件。
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